Jasmine Honour: Fearing the future

For the warriors on Warrior Talk,

From Jasmine x

I’ve found peace in the present… finally.
I used to hold on with all my might to the past and suffocate in thinking about the future. Really I was either sat there, saddened with how ill I had been, how starved I was and how much I lost from being as I was… or I’m sat there, anxiously shaking about how uncertain life is. For a while I couldn’t look forward without sucking everything from my present.

Would I relapse?

Will I fall in love?

Can I have children? Do I see children? Are there children?

Oh my goodness… I’m going to relapse, never fall in love and live alone forever.

This was me, most times worse. I’d think up an ‘end of the world’ disaster story like it was a game. A game that was so painful, as painful as the past. I suppose that’s what I was trying to do… match my past suffering with my future anticipation.

Fearing of the future can paralyse us, but we can allow it to unfold easily when we keep to the present moment. This is what I have learnt.

Though much of our fear is based on uncertainty, foreknowledge does not always ease us. It is often when our futures look brightest that our resolve crumbles and we veer off course. When it’s ‘good something bad is coming’ and when it’s ‘bad something good is coming… the mindset of us, positivity injected and negatively foreshadowing folk. It’s a way for us to keep hope, which is great but it’s also a way for us to protect ourselves and do things differently when we fear the bad is on the horizon and things are too good to be true, or too good to last.

The mere idea of attaining the life of our dreams can shake us to the core. It’s too good. Fear of the future is often closely intermingled with the fear that growing into your own potential will both change you irrevocably and force you to face situations for which we might not be ready for.

I’m understanding it is normal to unconsciously project ahead into the future and see bad things bearing down on you, lots of us do it. A coping mechanism to hold back, protect ourselves, stay in this safe zone, a happy unchallenged bubble. But what’s funny is that even staying still, hiding safe in the corner of the room has uncertainty. You don’t know if the corners of your safe home will crumble… so face the fear, get out there! It’s uncertain either way. That’s the magic!

Our souls long to fulfil their purpose. Because of this, neither you nor the universe will set any circumstance before you that you are not capable of handling! Fear of the future can paralyse you, preventing you from living in the moment and from working toward your goals

The spell to conquering this fear lies in awareness. Remember that no one achievement represents the end… every door opens another. Each time you overcome your fear of the future, you chip away at its very foundations. Eventually, you will clear a gap through which you can gaze upon the present peacefully.